Blue Lives Matter

One hundred fourteen and counting.

Somewhere between the cries for justice one will post #bluelivesmatter and a chorus will chant.

Knowingly, #bluelivesmatter is worse than Santa or The Bunny.

At least after exposing those lies hurt feelings are the only fatality.

Don’t say #bluelivesmatter when people of color are getting moved down in this country.

Don’t say #bluelivesmatter when the poster child is a man whiter than alabaster with a gleaming badge and disarming smile.

Don’t say #bluelivesmatter when a cop-veteran of over twenty years has the same chance of getting gunned down because of his skin.

That is my reality.

Since we’re only been saying #bluelivesmatter when one is accusing of gunning down a person of color

One hundred fourteen times and counting.

From the rural areas to the florescent lights not one place is safe

Cause our color is like a bull’s eye to a trigger happy child.

Even a cop of color isn’t safe and blanketed from the #bluelivesmatter or systematic racism

They are actually in more danger than others.

The trigger happy ones are their partners who must have their back as they go about their sworn duty

Those same ones could pull off that badge and put on a bullet

And some will just chant #bluelivesmatter while he gets a slap on the wrist.

So actually, your hashtag is just a silly cover protecting those who should not be equipped with that much responsibility.

Like #alllivesmatter only some of the force will be covered

While the rest will always walk with the bull’s eye on their chests.


Max Hydration Days 2 & 3

Greetings! I am writing a little in the past so yea…hang with me over there!

Day 2 bled into day 3 since I was beginning to get ill. 😦

The start of day 2 was letting my Shea Moisture  Manuka Honey & Marfura Oil Intensive Hydration Conditioner sit on my hair for an hour, which included spraying with warm water beforehand and detangling within that hour. This stuff smells amazing and left my hair soft and supple, although it’s not on the Max Hydration approved list of products.*

After rinsing out with warm water I decided to shampoo out the bit of buildup I noticed from the previous day with Mirabelle Plum Sulfate-free Shampoo before applying the clay mask. I did some chores outside and went to bed, as my meds were taking me out for the evening.

Day three was the ending of day two for me, as I rinsed the clay out with lukewarm water before applying my conditioner liberally on all four sections of damp hair. I unbound my conditioned hair and used my pick to lightly fluff all around. I let my hair air-dry and went upon my day. 😀


Above: Hair freshly washed without conditioner. Picture is rough but the ends are getting all spiral curly. 🙂  A little bit frizzy at top but hair is starting to make spirals.

*I’m using up some of my old products instead of buying approved products to save money.

The Max Hydration Method—Day 1

Hello everyone and welcome to the blog (for new and returning readers)! Summer is creeping on us! Hot weather and more days that we are wish were free to sit at the pool. Of course with all the additional pool/hot tub time that means more chlorine….which is horrible for all types of hair, especially natural hair! It dries out your hair, leaves a funky smell, and makes it change color at times.

Having the natural hair means that I need moisture, moisture, moisture! My type 4 hair is spiral and can have some cool twists and turns….as long as it’s not dry. Moisturized hair = happy curly hair! 😀

Thus comes in the Max Hydration Method! First, let’s give a basic run down of what the max method is.

THE MAX HYDRATION METHOD As talked about, proven, and explained in my other post, “wash and gos ‘don’t work’ on Nappy hair”(this method is ideal for those with majority of type 4 hair, but can be adjusted for other hair types depending on your hair’s needs):

in order for this method to work the most quickly and effectively; accurate, consistent, and frequent application of this method must be done on the hair. i’d say at least daily, but dont stretch it longer that every 3 days. this is how long conditioner will last in the hair.  while doing this be mindful of what your hair likes, so you can choose the proper options that will best benefit your hair.

you need to also have a proper understanding of the products and other things you put on your hair that your hair loses moisture from. this needs to be more than just a shallow understanding of “softness always means moisture” which is False. you need to understand what things affect (block) how your hairshaft actually absorbs the moisture, and what isnt effective enough to seal it in. this understanding can be better made by trying to read more of my post, “Wash and goes “don’t work” on Nappy Hair”.

even though i target this at those type 4s with low poros hair, if you believe you have naturally high porosity hair and are type 4 still experiment and see if this works for you. also make sure to do a strand test on hair ph balanced, clean hair for the most accurate results. its likely if your hair falls in many of the symptoms that i described in my other post, you could be mistaking your hairs porosity, or even mistaking natural porosity for temporarily opened cuticles. (

So basically it infuses moisture into your hair so your hair can go longer and longer before needing moisture. My hair definitely needs moisture so I thought it would be a great thing to try with the warmer summer months, where wash and gos won’t make me sick.

Personally I never tried the wash-n-go before this, as my hair tangles very easy. Shrunken hair is a great thing—it’s a sign of healthy natural hair taking in moisture, but I am more of a twist/stretched type of lady (because tangles). Yet, I will be attempting the dreaded wash-n-go to see if I can really “wash and go”.

(My steps) I didn’t have the ingredients for the Cherry Lola Treatment, which is suggested before starting the regimen. I don’t have the excess funds at the moment so I will come back to this at a later date.

The most of my first steps was getting warm water in my spray bottle and lots of Curls Coconut Conditioner (it was on sale and I love it!). My hair had been worn out in a fro for a week or two, so serious detangling was needed. Even with my Carol’s Daughter curl refresher spray my hair ended up more on the dry end by the time I detangled so it was not a fun hour and some change. It needed to be done though. After trimming my ends/some really stubborn knots I parted my hair into four workable sections and got to work.

I misted with warm water to soften up my hair, making sure to massage my scalp with my fingertips. Then I slathered on conditioner in small sections until the whole quarter of my hair was nicely conditioned. Using my fingers I gently prodded and pulled away most knots with the added slip, but some were too complicated to be saved at the ends…so they got the scissors. It happens.

After detangling my entire head, I gave a last mist with the warm water and covered with a plastic cap. I thought about rinsing after 15 mins, but left the conditioner overnight (I was sleepy lol).

I rinsed the conditioner out in the morning under warm running water. I had a stubborn tangle in the very nape that just wanted to cause trouble. Snip! The rest of my hair was well behaved however, with minimal tangles.

Next came the clay wash. I can never mix clay properly, so it ended up warm and pretty mushy. Yeah, at least I applied in the shower since it was pretty messy. Clay was applied to all four sections and rinsed off after 15 or so minutes with warm water.

Getting out the shower, I applied conditioner after patting my soaking wet hair. Conditioner was used….lots of conditioner. I saw those curls though, at the ends of my hair. My hair usually curls at the ends and goes up from there, so I saw some promise after 1 day of a partial cycle. >.< I am going to repeat for the rest of the week and see how my hair reacts. 😀

Here is a link to the complete method for those who are curious!

For Beautiful Hair Have You Tried…

Healthy hair is a beautiful thing. My curls are very tight kinks, that you can see the curl pattern at the ends much better than the beginning or middle. When I cut my hair I wanted something different but still long hair was a good thing. I wanted to see if my hair could go past the tops of my shoulders. In my year and some change of trying products, searching YouTube, and reading sites one thing was missing. It was so vital that I felt silly for neglecting this fact. This is something that cannot be looked over, since without it beautiful hair, or anything, is not possible.

Have a healthy, vitamin and mineral filled diet with plenty of water!

It’s hard to do so. Even with a meal plan I know that I do not get all my required vitamins for the day. What happens when you don’t get enough vitamins day after day? You become deficient and your body struggles more and more to make up for your lack. Your hair can’t be all it can be without the needed tools. Anything in your body can’t be all it can be without the tools. I take a multivitamin supplement every day and try to incorporate plenty of fruits, vegetables, and healthy grains into my daily diet.

Water is much harder for me to drink. It tastes like nothing. I don’t want any weird aftertaste, of course, but it’s hard for water to compete with sweet tea and sodas. I’m trying to wean myself off the processed sugars but it’s a battle. I drink my supply of herbal teas along with more water. Your body needs water—it’s a fact of life. The American diet isn’t strong on the importance of water, but we need less sodas. It’s a fact.  For a healthier head of hair, and the rest of you, the secret is water & vitamins.

Of Coconut Oil & Head Wraps

“It’s natural to be afraid of the unknown, but why does the unknown has to be me?”

I’m sure that I can be considered an odd sight, with my multi patterned brown hued wrap and swishing cheeks that contained a mouthful of warmed coconut oil. Even more an odd sight am I walking along on campus with a mostly white population and very few ‘anyone else’. Of course I feel the stares before seeing them, almost like a supernatural sense. The logical equation is this: If I go outside with my head wrap, then it is true that people (more than 5) will stare.

The stares are different based on the person. Some are confused starers, others are neutral. Some are interested, others are bored (with classes/life). At times I am mistaken for Muslim. Other times people think I’m Afrocentric & Anti-American (because they tie the two together most times). I’m pretty sure that I’m not feared….at least I hope not. With my small stature I am not intimidating.

With my big jar of coconut oil I start my day by swishing a teaspoon or so around my mouth. It melts quickly, leaving a hint of coconut flavor as I go around and around. My suite mate gives me the odd look, like ‘why are you using oil like mouthwash?’ even though it promotes good oral health. I guess the idea of oil for more than oiling is strange here. Then I place a layer of oil on my face, rub thoroughly, place a hot cloth on my face and wipe gently away. Leaves my face soft and clean but I still get the strange look. Coconut oil is also good for sealing in moisture after a shower, just like a fancy scented lotion without the extra ingredients.

So I’m slapped with the ‘Black Hippie’ label, because hippies back in the day weren’t black (according to image searches lol) and since I’m black with the new wave ‘go green, use natural ingredients’ I’m a Black Hippie. Of coconut oil and head wraps, at least I stand out in individuality.


Yarn Braids Experience

Greetings everyone! It’s a whole New Year, which means a whole new routine to get into! This is my first post of 2016, after I registered for classes and other college business. Let’s get to the post, shall we?

Yarn Braids: Why Get Them?

This turned out to be a great protective style for anyone who wants to change it up by doing something different. As you see above I chose red and black acrylic yarn for my version. I wanted some color without the commitment of dying my hair.

Before You Install…

I had to make sure to shampoo, condition, and twist my hair for some stretch action. My hair likes shrinks a good bit so the twisting and drying is a must before braiding. I just shampooed and conditioned with Mane N’ Tail Deep Moisturizing Shampoo & Conditioner. My leave in was Eden Bodyworks Coconut Leave in Lotion. I used Organic Shea Butter to seal it and twist. Looking back on it, I would use a deep conditioner also for extra moisture.

The Process!

You see, I was on winter break with nothing to do. The college closed down and my job is online based, so I had plenty of time! I used around 3 days, at 2 or so hours each. It will probably take more gifted people less than 6-8 hours but I’m a beginning braider. Message_1450215993370

I got as close to the scalp as I could stand without slippage. I just removed by two strand twists, sprayed water & used leave in, and sealed with an avocado oil mix before braiding. My black yarn was pretty thick and easy to use but my red yarn was smaller in diameter. Get the thicker yarn brands…it pays off in the end. I ran out of black yarn eventually so I used several strands of red yarn to finish the look.

I moisturized my hair with my spray bottle of water and avocado oil mix. I had to squeeze the water and oil into the braids in little bunches after saturating. My scalp was out and extremely easy to moisturize and seal. I did shampoo and cowash my braids twice and kept the style for a month. Not bad for a random hairdo.

Taking them out!

Removing the braids was a long process. Longer than putting them in I would guess. I did the removal all in one afternoon/night. The thicker yarn was great. Clip the ends, unravel the braid, and slip it out of your hair. Used conditioner and oil to make my life a bit easier. The thinner yarn got stuck around itself in the braided pattern. The strands did not want to separate as easily, which was annoying. Maybe if I washed less it wouldn’t have that effect?

I removed all the braids, trimmed the ends of my hair, slapped in some Eden Body works Deep Conditioner in my sections and called it a night.

In the end, I liked the experiment. Maintenance was pretty easy–just moisturize and seal every couple of days. It doesn’t get any easier than that. Installing will take a minute, even with YouTube entertainment. My braiding skill needs some good practice so I will probably try this again. Just with thicker yarn next time. 😀

Long Haired Black Girl?

“Oh my God…you cut your hair!?!?” Freak out ensures after this popular quote usually by one of my relatives that haven’t seen me in a while. In their minds I was the same girl with the shoulder touching, collar bone brushing straight brown hair.

“Your hair is so short now…” The eyes would look around my face, to my sporty new curls and then shine in disappointment. I have committed a crime. I had cut my ‘long’ hair. No black girl in my small town would dare cut her long hair!

My family, and the neighborhood, spit this out as universal truth: that black girls usually have short hair. Those who do not have short hair have long hair and should keep it at all costs because black girls do not have long hair. My hair was relaxed like everyone else. Nothing too special. A normal brown hue that was red at the tips and black at the roots. I had an odd mix of three colors that would catch the light and confuse everyone since I never dyed my hair in my life.

After chopping off my relaxed hair, I became the new oddity in my town. Only old ladies had natural hair, usually because of hair loss. Not one young woman in good health wore her natural hair until I took the leap. Especially not a young woman with long hair.

Over the year of natural hair I saw growth. It wasn’t easy with my little fro but the growth was hidden between the kinks and bends. My boyfriend was the first one to see the growth, after he got over the drastic length change bless his heart. LOL! Even when I thought it wasn’t growing he was always assuring me that it was getting bigger by the day.

The curls started to stand up in spite of gravity. My hair wasn’t the same black-brown-red ombre that I had in my relaxed days. The color was just black now. The chemicals had lifted and damaged so much of my hair that the pigment that dictated hair color was lifted with each treatment. At the roots it was a mass of kinks but the ends were small little tight spirals. I thought it was the coolest thing ever, and still do.

My short hair was not met with the same love and wonder that prompted me to cut it. Most people were confused back in my town, and others didn’t care at my college. It was just hair to the masses. Yet to the Black people in my town, I had cut my feminine glory. I was now the ‘weird’ woman, the one that wasn’t feminine but too petite to be masculine. My biblical crown had been removed by my own insanity to sport nappy short locks.

Yet my hair kept growing and growing despite the common knowledge. My hair is now shoulder length right now but that’s okay. Now its getting towards ‘long hair’ standards by those who see me stretch it (usually during styling). Obviously the common knowledge is a myth for the most part. Genetics and lifestyle actually determine hair length better than anything. Take care of your body, and your body will reflect that everywhere.

I’ve had women my age call me crazy, mostly because it’s so different. That’s cool. But for the record, black women can and do grow hair.