
“…it’s like a workshop, for single ladies to find their Adam..”
“The ultimate goal in a relationship, romantic, between Adam (man) and Eve (woman) is marriage.”
The day was just starting, rustic in its morning dew.It was after early service at least and some coffee was swirling in my veins. I was, at least, alert enough to pay attention and comment…even if my face said otherwise. Some of the younger single ladies were just chilling, since we didn’t have much to do.
It does make me wonder about setting marriage as the ultimate relationship goal. I don’t think its a bad goal, but it is set as the ultimate Christian goal for romantic male-female relationships.
Sure, there are some stupid relationship goals out there. Some of them really don’t make sense either. Relationships are changing especially for the younger generation(s). More young people are living together before marriage. More couples are not even getting married at all but people are still having children, buying houses, and weaving lives together. So the human race is not dying out even if marriage is on the decline.
Plenty of people have done research on the rise of single parent households. The effects of single parenthood on both mother and child, the effects of not having a father figure….and many more related things. Yet the old way of marriage and relationships were not any more perfect than the modern counterparts. People stayed together longer than some of us are alive, and with that comes many problems. Not sure if I was born in another time would I have been married for decades. It is hard to imagine being married even at my ‘youngish’ age.
As a single Christian, I have the option of marriage or celibacy in my relationships (if I’m trying to live the best chaste life possible). Chasity is out of the question as an option (I don’t want that life lol.) Others around me were of mixed feelings—some loved the idea but rather not have the reality, while others vouched that marriage is best no matter the situation.
I am still undecided on the topic. Marriage can be beautiful—but is it really needed today?